I finally got the call yesterday with my results. No blood clot disorders and my chromosome analysis came back Normal. This is great news, but on the other hand there's still no explanation for why our embies arrested and I m/c so early. I know with IF sometimes there's never an answer, but gosh I just wanted something to explain it. It's always easier to feel like there's something that can be fixed. I did get the confirmation that once AF comes again I can start BCPs again. That means IVF#2 will probably be in September. I can't believe I'm going thru this all over again. I'm scared. I just don't want the same thing to happen; it would be devestating. I know we still have 2 tries left before we have to consider other options, but just knowing that we already had such a bad first attempt makes me worried about what this next go round will be like. My RE even said in his opinion what happens the first time usually happens again. He wasn't very positive, but ultimately unless he says we can't try again, it's up to us. So now I wait yet again for AF to come; freakin' story of my life.
Well I went in on Tuesday morning to the hospital and got the blood drawn for all the tests my RE ordered. I was there for almost an hour and a half (the only one) while the nurses figured out the order. The nurse even had to call my REs office to get confirmation on one of the tests he ordered because they'd never done it before. Even one of the tests isn't available, so it beats me what he's looking for. Anyway they finally got things straight and they took 13 vials of blood. Gosh that was more than any of the early IF screening I had to do. It was ridiculous, but it's done and now the waiting for the results begins. I'll probably call my RE in about 2 weeks to see what's come in and how many tests they're still waiting on. My RE doesn't want to go over anything until he's got all the results back. Ugh and here I thought I was done with all the waiting, certainly wrong there.
I guess I was kind of all gung-ho about possibly doing donor just so our chances would be better, but after having a few nights to sleep on it; I'm NOT ready. I talked with a nurse on Friday and she ordered all of the labwork; we're doing a miscarriage panel and several other genetic tests. She also reiterated what I already knew that there's no way to test the quality of the eggs. You just have to fertilize and wait and see. So I guess scientists can test sperm all day long, but haven't figured out how to test eggs? Interesting...
The nurse also told me they didn't want to put me in touch with the donor nurse yet until we get all the bloodwork results back, which could take weeks. I think I've decided to wait and see how the results turn out and unless there's something that gives us a reason why we shouldn't use my eggs, I want to try again. I mean we paid for 3 tries, we've done 1, so we've got 2 left. Only problem is in our agreement if the doctor's don't think you can carry a child or if they find any other reason to not agree you should move forward, they can choose to remove us from the shared-risk program. That would be so devestating to me. I think though, if I really talk to my RE about how we feel about everything I could get him to agree to at least one more try. I'm just not ready to give up on having a child that's biologically ours. I have tons of flaws and there's alot of bad stuff as far as depression, anxiety, alchoholism, substance abuse, high cholesterol, obesity, hypothyroidism, and now infertility on my side of the family. But aren't there these kinds of things in most families? Yes, I know there's alot more, but until the doctor's tell me I've got some life-threatening condition that I could pass on to my kids or some kind of genetic defect that would cause major issues, I guess I'm still willing to take a chance.
Hopefully I'll get the lab orders by Monday and we can start waiting again for more results.
Yep, that's what the RE said. Was I expecting it? No. Am I starting to feel a little more okay about it? Yes. We were already prepared to possibly use donor sperm, well it just got switched on us. In all honesty we just want to be parents. And at this point I don't care how it happens. I don't even know if I really even care all that much about being pregnant. Sure I would love to go thru the experience, but if it isn't in the cards for us, I think I'm more prepared for it now that we've gone thru a failed IVF. We tried everything and I feel like there wasn't much more we could do. I will be doing some bloodwork to check for clotting disorders and also do a chromosome analysis on me. But even if the results come back ok, I just don't know if I'm prepared to go thru another IVF attempt, when the likelihood the results will be same is pretty high. I'm hoping I can get some answers from the donor nurse in the morning. I have no idea how this will play into the cost of everything. I looked online and the donor-egg shared risk program is like $27,500. S**T!!! But if after the 3rd attempt you still don't have a baby (live), then you get 100% back, which is nice. I just don't think we'd be able to come up with the money. We're already straped enough as it is, with paying for 2 loans for what we had to borrow for the shared risk program we already belong to. I'm hoping they can come up with some kind of plan that would just use some of the money we've already spent so we won't have to come up with more. Gosh this sucks! Welcome to the world of infertility.....
My name is Melissa and I'm 28 years old. I've been married to my husband for six years. We've been together since we were 18. We started TTC in May of 2007. I've been thru 8 rounds of Clomid, 3 IUIs, and IVF#1 which all resulted in BFNs. FET#1 and IVF#2 ended in chemical pregnancies. FET#2 resulted in our little miracle Liam, born 8-17-11. This is now my journey through motherhood and past infertility.