tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2090581950903472167.post7412112264178373603..comments2024-03-20T04:02:45.614-04:00Comments on Wholeheartedly: Seeking HelpMelissaP05http://www.blogger.com/profile/06581415340250726038noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2090581950903472167.post-47820644322514270192010-11-23T23:10:03.516-05:002010-11-23T23:10:03.516-05:00Here from ICLW - Hang in there! and be nice to you...Here from ICLW - Hang in there! and be nice to yourself. I've read the last few posts and it seems like maybe its a good idea to get some outside help - there's no shame in it (or maybe I just say that because I've been in therapy for 14 years :P), and it might help with a multitude of things. Praying for you and your husband and sending you hugs and sticky baby dust during your 2ww.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2090581950903472167.post-27359600111047497132010-11-23T21:43:23.253-05:002010-11-23T21:43:23.253-05:00It's absolutely OK to take care of yourself, w...It's absolutely OK to take care of yourself, whether that means going to therapy or not sitting with a friend because it hurts too much right now. In fact, taking care of yourself is vital. I hope you find someone supportive to talk with.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2090581950903472167.post-50311763897511381622010-11-22T21:49:38.212-05:002010-11-22T21:49:38.212-05:00Melissa, I also did not read your last post until ...Melissa, I also did not read your last post until now because I was sick with the flu this weekend. First off, ((HUGS)). Secondly, if you remember, I went to a counselor who was not a very good fit either. I give you a lot of credit for giving it another go in hopes that this therapist will be a better fit. Not knowing how you selected this current one- can you have your RE give you an reccomendation for one? That might be a good way to go.<br /><br />Also, you are not a horrible friend- you have to do what's best for you first. If your friend is a good friend, she'll understand that. If she doesn't understand that, then maybe she's not the best friend to have anyway.<br /><br />Thinking of you as always.Once Upon A Timehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08865931408744885743noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2090581950903472167.post-18117470609489572412010-11-22T20:24:55.189-05:002010-11-22T20:24:55.189-05:00Are you skeptical of me? I am a therapist. We aren...Are you skeptical of me? I am a therapist. We aren't all bad, I promise. But sometimes, you have to find a person who is th right fit. Have you looked into a fertility specific counselor? That might help. If one is not available, seek out a trauma therapist. <br /><br />I think there is a lot to be discussed here and I am so sorry you are having a rough time. Thinking of you my dear.Glass Case of Emotionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05955456197879910244noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2090581950903472167.post-9588684526295915822010-11-22T17:44:59.556-05:002010-11-22T17:44:59.556-05:00I hope that finding someone to talk to will help y...I hope that finding someone to talk to will help you and to bring some of your happiness back.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2090581950903472167.post-33736804098496876112010-11-22T16:25:58.147-05:002010-11-22T16:25:58.147-05:00Hey, I am getting caught up on blogging today so I...Hey, I am getting caught up on blogging today so I just now read your last one. I don't know what to say except that I love you and I hope both of us have better luck next month! I pray for you all the time.Annahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17418678483756528529noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2090581950903472167.post-91420746696856933882010-11-22T15:24:23.795-05:002010-11-22T15:24:23.795-05:00I just read your last post as well. We have been b...I just read your last post as well. We have been busy here with company and I feel so terrible that I didn't catch it earlier. I'm sure you are experiencing a lot of pain and hurt right now not only with infertility but with the tension between you and Rob. I'm so sorry and my heart breaks for you. I think you are doing the right thing seeking help from a therapist. I saw a therapist when I was going through an especially hard time and I think it was beneficial. Granted, you need to find the right fit. If you see someone that isn't helping, dump them and find someone new. I can NOT believe your previous therapist gave you a book on how to get pregnant. That is just so ridiculous and inappropriate. I love you so much and hope that there is an end in sight from all of this pain very soon for you.Spit Happenshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02806934349255089412noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2090581950903472167.post-66447506225798504102010-11-22T15:01:04.848-05:002010-11-22T15:01:04.848-05:00I have mostly lurked but wanted to wish you the be...I have mostly lurked but wanted to wish you the best. I experienced two chem pgs in 2009 and understand what you are going through. I hope that you are able to find a therapist you click with and he/she can help you in every way possible.Lesliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17635695705004799302noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2090581950903472167.post-70138688569057826602010-11-22T13:34:24.756-05:002010-11-22T13:34:24.756-05:00That whole book thing is just awful! Could you pe...That whole book thing is just awful! Could you perhaps find a therapist who specializes in infertility? My clinic has one and she is wonderful and would never think to give me a book on how to get pregnant! Good luck finding someone! Happy ICLW!Ashleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03543480612775718706noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2090581950903472167.post-49365003551902671822010-11-22T12:18:37.159-05:002010-11-22T12:18:37.159-05:00Oh Melissa, I'm so sorry I missed your last po...Oh Melissa, I'm so sorry I missed your last post. I hate that you are having such a tough time, but I can identify with so much of what you're saying. <br /><br />Let's get through this together, k?<br /><br />Hugs friend.Melissa Ghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04150534738341942742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2090581950903472167.post-24244056379921810962010-11-22T12:08:21.084-05:002010-11-22T12:08:21.084-05:00Hey, Melissa. I'm just catching up on your las...Hey, Melissa. I'm just catching up on your last post. I'm so sorry for everything that's going on right now. I think it's wonderful that you are seeking out someone to talk to about everything. Is it possibly you could convince your husband to go, too, once you find a therapist you like? He doesn't even have to talk - he can just listen to what you have to say. Or maybe you could write him a letter about your sessions that expresses your feelings.<br /><br />You will get through this. I know it. It might not feel that way right now, but you will. You are a strong woman.<br /><br />Thinking of you lots and sending hugs. <3Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2090581950903472167.post-43900506926700702012010-11-22T10:53:08.216-05:002010-11-22T10:53:08.216-05:00Melissa, I just read your last post and this one. ...Melissa, I just read your last post and this one. I wish I could give you a big hug right now. I'm so sorry you're going through all of this at once and feeling so alone. I think reaching out for help from an outsider is probably a good idea at this point. I remember your last experience at therapy (though I don't remember the 1970s book- wow!). I hope this therapist is a better match for you. If nothing else, sometimes it helps just to have a sounding board. You certainly have a lot on your plate right now. Anyone would be feeling overwhelmed in your shoes. Hang in there. Good luck with this FET. I'm thinking of you.Kerrihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04059564320945844977noreply@blogger.com